Life coaching is not merely a profession but a form of art. It has surfaced in recent years as a highly influential way that people receive help, giving them their personal “helper,” who partners with them in improving all aspects of their lives. It has altered the paradigm of how people seek help using a more client-centered approach.
To a good a life coach, no coaching session can be taken lightly. They consider it a holy spot for another human being, presenting them the opportunity to be actually heard (perhaps for the very first time in so long), and within that holy spot, miracles are bound to unfold.
The individual’s own problem-solving abilities start to emerge, and they realize that they can solve their problems without anyone giving them advice. This realization by itself is life-changing. The person starts to appreciate things from a new perspective and digs into that part of themselves that is already aware of the answers. They take control.
Listening, with undivided attention on the other human being, is an essential aspect of life coaching. People today are rarely ever listened to in this busy world we’re all moving in. A life coach has a natural ability to listen. It works for clients, those who are really heard and may express themselves completely, to have another person sincerely listen to them. Helping others in their quest for a good life needs more listening than speaking or teaching.
When a person is listened to with undisturbed focus on what they’re saying, they come up with their own solutions and decisions, and learn options they never saw before.
When selecting a life coach there are particular qualities you must to look for. A life coach with plenty of certifications may not be able to listen well or possess inherent people skills, while another who has had no formal certification may have exceptional listening skills and high-value insights.
As you choose a life coach, spend time to ask yourself these questions:
Does the life coach listen well and give you their undivided attention?
Do you feel comfortable enough that you can be fully honest and open to them?
Do you feel they even understand you?
Do you see them as genuine and passionate in the way they deal with you?
Do you feel like they really have your welfare at heart rather than some hidden motive?
A life coach should listen to you and provide guidance, not instruct you on how to live your life. They are not your therapists or consultants. Keep in mind that you are in control. If you meet a life coach who starts telling you how to map your life, run away.